Inner Phase Assessment
Discover which phase of growth you are currently navigating.
1. When you receive a compliment on a job well done, your internal reaction is usually:
"Thank you! I worked hard on this and I'm proud of it."
"They’re just being nice; it wasn't that big of a deal."
"I just got lucky this time. I hope I can do it again so they don't think I’m a fraud."
2. Your sense of "feeling good about yourself" is most dependent on:
My internal values and how I treat others.
My productivity, grades, or how much I achieved today.
Whether or not people are currently happy with me.
3. A friend asks you for a favor that you genuinely do not have the time or energy for. You:
Politely decline and offer a different time or a smaller way to help.
Say yes, but feel resentful and exhausted while doing it.
Say yes immediately because you're afraid they’ll be mad if you say no.
4. How often do you find yourself "venting" about someone instead of talking to them directly about a boundary they crossed?
Rarely; I try to address issues as they arise.
Occasionally; it’s easier than starting a conflict.
Constantly; I don't feel like I have the right to tell them no.
5. When you feel overwhelmed or stressed, your "inner voice" sounds like:
A supportive coach: "It's a lot right now, let's take a break."
A strict boss: "Stop complaining and just get it done."
A harsh critic: "Why can't you handle this like everyone else?"
6. When you take time for "Self-Care" (rest, hobbies, doing nothing), you feel:
Refreshed and deserving of the break.
Anxious that you should be doing something "productive."
Guilty, like you are "lazy" or failing others.
7. When you scroll through social media and see others succeeding or having fun, your immediate thought is:
"Good for them! It’s nice to see people doing well."
"I need to start working harder; I'm falling behind."
"My life is so boring compared to theirs; I must be doing something wrong."
8. You made a small, honest mistake at work or in a social setting. How do you handle it?
I apologize (if needed), fix what I can, and move on.
I obsess over how to "over-deliver" next time to make up for the failure.
I replay the moment in my head for days, feeling deeply embarrassed and certain everyone is judging me.
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